True Love

True Love
Commitment, Passion, Intimacy

A True Love gives you a feeling of being "complete!"

From Japan: An en is a karmic bond lasting a lifetime.

Immature love says: "I love you because I need you." Mature love says: "I need you because I love you." - Erich Fromm 1900-1980

Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. - Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land, 1961, 34.

Love is, above all, the gift of oneself. - Jean Anouilh, Ardele, 1948, (2, translated by Lucienne Hill)

Triangular Theory of Love

Now one of the best known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.

The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:

Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.

Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).

Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.

Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.

Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:

Is there love at first sight?

This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.

Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?

This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.

Can their be love without sex?

Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.

Why doesn't romantic love last?

Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends.

Why Great Life Mates (GLM) is different from other dating, singles, or matchmaking web sites:

1. All Members have to apply and be interviewed before becoming a member. Most sites want everyone to have a "free profile" so they can boost their membership numbers and even allow multiple profiles. GLM takes the approach of trying to make sure we have the right people as Members.
   
   
2. All Members are required to have photos so you can see their faces and bodies clearly. Whether you consider yourself good-looking or not, we believe in letting others see you as you are as it is a natural starting point for attraction. Smart people know that how good a person looks does vary with what the feelings are about them. The most beautiful people aren't necessarily those with the best physical looks.
   
   
3. All Members are required to have access to a web cam that works with Yahoo! Messenger or AIM / iChat AV. The web cam is so that members can be interviewed and also so they can SEE live a person they may be communicating with online.
   
   
4. All Members are serious about finding their life mate. No one is just looking for a date or sex, or just a "long-term" relationship. They are looking for a life-mate relationship which lasts for the rest of their lives, a relationship which has true love.
   
   
5. All Members have access to all profiles and have unrestricted access to contact other members for a low country-based fee. Once you are a Member you have complete access to other members without additional "levels" of membership. Our membership fee allows time for things to happen, varies by country to make it affordable worldwide, and is way less than most dating or matchmaking web sites.
   
   

Plus Great Life Mates offers services to facilitate blossoming relationships internationally. These services do have separate costs as they are provided by professionals in their areas.

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